It’s Valentine’s Day and I’m single…(“mostly” by choice) but that doesn’t mean it’s exactly where I “thought” I would be
The funniest part for me is how people react to that…
Usually when they find out I’m still single their next question (either out loud or in their head) is WHY? I CHOOSE to take that as a compliment although sometimes it means they are just trying to figure out what’s wrong. LOL.
But if it’s out loud, it inevitably transforms into some sort of “comforting” pep talk about how they know God is going to bring me an amazing guy.
And I agree!
The funny thing to me is they assume that I ever doubted it.
With each “no” I become MORE faithful because I know it brings me closer to HIS YES.
In fact I look back on who I thought (sometimes even prayed) I would end up with and those unanswered prayers were most certainly a deliverance not a denial.
Because I have a prayer:
God if it’s meant for me please make sure I don’t miss it and if it’s not please take it away!
(and if we ever meet up and grab a drink I have some really funny of stories about that to share)
What I want to focus on here is what we each choose to fill the gap with in waiting.
No matter what goal you have there are always two things I can share that you’ll have in reaching your goal.
There’ll be both a :
- DELAY
- DIP
The delay is the time that passes from the thought of the dream to when it actually occurs. Wish God had some magic portal to show his timing, but clearly I don’t know it, and I don’t think there is. Inevitably we know there is a time delay, but for some reason we think we have control over it.
Really I think that’s the biggest thing that gives us frustration and it shows up in our expectations of where we are versus where we think we should be.
The dip is the “valley” each of us has before our next uphill!
I’ve learned the valley isn’t so bad…first of all, it means that I must be getting prepared for my next mountain top view…and second, it’s honestly been where I’ve been blessed to find my greatest strengths
“For when I am weak, then I am strong” 2 Corinthians 12:10 NIV
The choice in having the delay and dip isn’t ours…but the choice in what we fill them with is!
Here’s my suggestion…choose to fill it with fulfillment verses frustration.
Don’t get get stuck in the fact so much that you miss the possibilities.
The fact is (for now) I’m single! The blessing is I have more time to devote to myself and develop things for you! The possibility is that God is working in and through whoever I am supposed to meet so we will both be even MORE FULFILLED when we meet and have even more to offer each other– and I believe THIS to be true!
Share in the comments below how you choose to shift your perspective and better fill your delay and dip!
You are so right… there is more to patience than just waiting; it’s what to do while waiting. I am still single too and know God has a plan for me… man or no man, I’ll be thankful. Your word is encouraging and makes me not feel alone. I do believe God is giving me time to work on myself, while at the same time working on my man. Thank you!